Some people may ask, "What causes a person to feel angry?" There are two answers to the question. The first is that you may feel angry with yourself or something that you may have done. The second is that you may be angry at another person or object. Some people may refer to feeling angry with yourself as internal anger and anger towards another person as external anger. An example of internal anger is that you did not do as good as you wanted to do on your test. An example of external anger is getting into an argument with a friend. There are different ways of dealing with your anger. The best way is to go right to the person that you are feeling angry with and talk to them about it. Although this is the best way it may not always be an option for the situation you are in. If you are angry with yourself you should find a friend and talk to them about it and get it off your mind so you don't build up your anger. Building up your anger is an example as well, but it is probably the worst choice. Many people do this because they are afraid of hurting the feelings of the other person. However, when people build up their anger it usually seems to hurt their relationship with the other person. Also it is not easy to hold in your anger because people that are close to you can tell when you are feeling angry. Some people may not realize themselves that they are feeling angry. One way to tell if you are angry is if you are short tempered. Violent feelings are also ways of realizing that you are feeling angry. Some people may be able to tell by physical symptoms. Some people get an upset stomach, headaches, and ulcers. Your body can usually tell when something is wrong. When you are going to let out your aggression you have to make a decision if it is the right place and the right time to show your feelings. Sometimes you are with a large group of people and it may not be the right time to let out your angry feelings. It is best to find a place that is quiet and a place where you can talk to someone about your feelings. It is much easier to express your anger if you trust the person. That does not mean that you have to trust the person, all you need to do is trust yourself. Their are a few steps that may help people to learn more about their angry feelings. The first step is to find out what is making you feel angry. It may be family, work, or friends. The next step is to locate the source. This means that you need to find out if it is internal anger or external anger. Then you need to find the right time and place to talk about your feelings. This is the third step. The fourth, and final step is to tell the person in the easiest and most simple way possible. The person may not always react the way that you want, but you just have to remember that you expressed your anger and it is they have to deal with it.

The teen years are a very difficult time for all families. Teens are starting to grow up and try new things that their parents may not approve of. This creates anger in the parents as well as the teens. The teens anger may be out of control at times and they may do dangerous things. Such as using drugs and drinking alcohol, they may make criminal acts or even attempt suicide. These actions are symptoms of disruptive disorders. This is a large illness that affects many people under the age of eighteen. A study showed that 9 percent of all boys, and 2 percent of all girls under 18 are affected by a disruptive disorder. Disruptive disorders are put in two groups. The oppositional defiant disorder is when a teen has a bad temper and resists being disciplined without hurting the rights of other people. The conduct disorder has many of the same symptoms but these actions hurt the rights of other people. Parents may not be able to tell if their child has a disorder because the are in denial or the might be angry themselves. There are some things that a parent can look for to tell if their teen has a disorder. Some signs are if the teen breaks rules all of the time and stays out past curfew. Another sign is a teen that has ran away from home. If lose their temper easy or get in trouble at school a lot they might have a disorder. If they get in lots of fights and get in trouble with the law they may have some symptoms of a disorder. A big sign is if they have talked about or attempted suicide. If a situation goes untreated for a long time it may result in aggressive behavior. Studies have shown that their are some factors that are seen in most disorders. One factor is the environment the teen has grown up in. An example is a divorce, and the teen may believe it is their fault. Psychiatric disorders can also help cause disruptive disorders. Their are also Medical and biological factors that may have an effect. Some other factors are learning disabilities. Also drug and alcohol abuse can be symptoms of a disruptive disorder. If a parent believes that their child may have a disruptive disorder they should have it checked out right away. They can get set up for treatment. Some methods of treatment are individual counseling, family counseling, group therapy, and medication. Parents can also help the teen control their aggressions and help them let it out in healthy ways. They can show them different ways to deal with anger. They can use prevention and try to stop the problem before it gets to far. They can also use crisis management such as a sitting down and talking about the problem with the child. Another method is time-outs this will help give the parents and the child a chance to cool down. The best method for parents is to be a good role model for the children. If they show good ways of dealing with anger their children may do the same. A parent is the person who children look up to as they are growing up.

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http://www.allsands.com/Lifestyles/dealingwitha_apn_gn.htm

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http://www.counsel.ufl.edu/selfHelp/dealingWithAnger.asp

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http://www.mi-pathways.org/brochures/adolescent_agression.html